Sunday, April 1, 2012

Is Salary a Marriage Catalyst?

Are you planning to settle down? If yes, then do you earn enough? If the answer to this question is ‘no,’ then buckle up. Marriage chances increase significantly if your pay package is attractive enough. Constantine von Hoffman, of CBCMoneyWatch.Com, gives an insightful review of how moolah affects marriage.

Marriage and Salary – The Connection?

A blissful married life requires 2 loving and devoted people. But, in these changing times, marriage needs something extra. With the Union Budget turning out to be a downer for most of us, we need all the help we can get from other areas. If you and your spouse both work, then the impact of the Budget won’t be that bitter. Plus, there are a couple of advantages. First – as you both are salaried, you can divide your earnings wisely on various expenses. Second – both of you can share your knowledge about the markets. This way you can invest sensibly. Third – filing a joint income tax return will be a breeze. Still, don’t chuck the emotional connect between spouses out the window. Without this, not even a trillion dollars can spell out marital happiness.

Marriage, Education and Women

Elders say that a good pay package depends upon our college degree. But there are so many people who have earned billions without getting proper college degrees. Since, this is not an option for regular Joes like us; we have to strive for higher education. It is often drilled into our heads that if we do not get a decent degree, we will not get married. It is even observed in India that girls are compelled to get a college degree only to get a suitable husband, preferably rich. It might sound cruel but this is a cold fact.

Marriage, Education and Men

Even the male gender is not spared from this agony. Even young men are coached to earn good salaries so that they become independent. Being independent is a very desirable trait but only a few know the hidden motive behind it. Young men are trained to become the sole breadwinners, even if their wives earn. It is an unwritten rule for most Indian men to consider their wives’ incomes as off-limits. Taking even a paisa from one’s wife is treated as a taboo by many men. So, if guys want to get married, then they better have very good salaries.

Working Couples and Happy Married Life

TOI quotes David Brooks, a writer for The New York Times, sheds light on some hidden facts of marital bliss. He says that married couples are “significantly more content” than those who are unmarried. According to Brooks, working couples tend to be more content with their financial health than unmarried ones. Even selected statistics denote the same finding. The Daily Mail quoted him as telling BBC, "Marriage is tremendously important. We have a tendency to think of ourselves as rational individuals who are driven by economic motives but in fact we are social individuals, driven by the need for relationships."

Brooks also mentions in his book, 'Social Animals' that people should give weightage to relationships and not money. He even advises eligible single people to take up courses for finding their future partners.